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The Empowered Journey: Sherman Perryman on Resilience, Love, and Holistic Success
Unlock the secrets to resilience, love, and compassion in our latest episode of the Author Revolution Podcast, featuring the visionary Sherman Perryman. From his military-influenced upbringing to founding Militant Grind, Sherman shares his remarkable journey of integrating mental, physical, and spiritual wellness into a coaching program designed to help individuals reach their full potential. Discover the transformative power of empathy, perseverance, and holistic self-care as Sherman recounts his challenges and triumphs in entrepreneurship, guided by core principles of success.
Dive deep into Sherman's philosophy as he explores the significance of love, honor, discipline, strength, and wisdom in personal growth. With vivid anecdotes from his life in challenging environments, Sherman illustrates how these values shaped his path and continue to influence his coaching practices today. Learn how maintaining a positive mindset and drawing inspiration from iconic figures like Kobe Bryant and Muhammad Ali can help you overcome trauma and foster a supportive community around you.
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Welcome to the Author Revolution podcast, where change is not just embraced, it's celebrated. I'm Carissa Andrews, international bestselling author, indie author coach and your navigator through the ever-evolving landscape of authorship. Are you ready to harness the power of your mind and the latest innovations in technology for your writing journey? If you're passionate about manifesting your dreams and pioneering new writing frontiers, then you're in the perfect place. Here we merge the mystical woo of writing with the exciting advancements of the modern world. We dive into the realms of mindset, manifestation and the transformative magic that occurs when you believe in the impossible. We also venture into the world of futuristic technologies and strategies, preparing you for the next chapter in your author career. Every week, we explore new ways to revolutionize your writing and publishing experience, from AI to breakthrough thinking. This podcast is your gateway to a world where creativity meets innovation. Whether you're penning your first novel or expanding your literary empire, whether you're a devotee of the pen or a digital storyteller, this podcast is where your author revolution gains momentum. So join me in this journey to continue growth and transformation. It's time to redefine what it means to be an author in today's dynamic world. This is the Author Revolution Podcast, and your author revolution starts now. Welcome back, authors.
Carissa Andrews:I am beyond excited for today's episode because I have an incredible guest joining me Sherman Perryman, the founder of Militant Grind. Now, sherman is not just a visionary. He's a man who's lived and breathed the principles he's going to be teaching us. With a background in social justice, personal development and community building, sherman created Militant Grind to empower individuals to develop a resilient mindset rooted in love and compassion. We've dived deep into his his journey, from what sparked the creation of Militant Grind to the core principles and philosophy that drive this transformative platform. Plus, sherman gives us a sneak peek into the books he's written, the ones he's still got on the horizon, and all the things right. So this conversation is packed with inspiration and actionable insights, and you're not going to want to miss a single second of it. So let's get to it. Well, hi, sherman, welcome to the Author Revolution podcast. I'm really excited to bring you onto the show today to talk about all the things, but before we get started, can you tell my audience a little bit about who you are and what you do?
Sherman Perryman:I'm Sherman Perryman. I'm the founder of Militant Grind, which is a mindset coaching program. Militant Grind, which is a mindset coaching program. We have coaching, we also have physical training and I also am a host for the Militant Grind podcast as well.
Carissa Andrews:It's so cool. It is so cool. Okay. So for my audience who doesn't know about the Militant Grind, can you introduce them to the philosophy and what inspired you to create this ethos?
Sherman Perryman:and what inspired you to create this ethos? The philosophy is all of us being the best versions of ourselves. I feel like that's like above all, and in order to do that, we need to be in control and harness our mind, body and spirit. So all those three have to be intact in order for you to become whole. And sometimes people like get militant grind misconstrued. They think I was in the military or something like that. Like I actually wasn't at all ever, but I come from a military background. As far as, like how I was raised, my father was in the army, grandfather in the Navy.
Sherman Perryman:I have a brother, that's active duty Sergeant first class right now. So, if you can, as you can tell, like I come from a very militant structured background and I was trying to create a brand that mostly resonated with me and who I am at the core, and so I was just meditating, thinking like what should I call it? Et cetera, who am I? And then the name militant grind popped up and it was just like a unused name, you know, like Militant.
Sherman Perryman:Grind dot com was available. You know, no one was really using it. You know the Internet there's billions of people that have, you know, use the Internet. So I was just like what, there's a name and I could actually take it and it's there and nobody has ever used it, and it just seemed like it was just so simple, you know. So, yeah, I figured out that militantgrindcom was available. I was like, okay, cool, snatched it and it actually has been one of the best things that you know, I've probably ever done, because I started a lot of different businesses and you know I'm also a pretty popular person where I'm from and I've never received so much support for anything I've ever done besides this, you know.
Sherman Perryman:Like so some of my friends will be like you know, you tried this, you tried that, you know you did all these different things.
Sherman Perryman:You know just as an entrepreneur, but what you're doing now, that's that's you, bro, like yeah, because it was like my passion was like helping people, um, you know, giving advice, mindset advice, trying to get people to see life in a different way, and I'll just do that for fun. You know, I'll put it on Facebook and you know, see what people think and a lot of people resonate with a lot of the stuff that I wrote, that I put up there. So I was like let's just figure out a way to make money or make a living impacting people and, as well as doing something that I'm passionate about, so that's so cool.
Carissa Andrews:I love that. Well, my brain's like okay, already a couple things. Number one I love that you meditated and it came to you because I teach that sort of thing all the time, where it's like allow the thoughts to to kind of like come, and when you do that you're in alignment with who you are, which obviously you were right. You got the insight, the inspired action, if you will, and you took it off and running and did what you could and it was like so easy because the next logical steps were there and it was ready to go. I love that. I also love having people shift their perception and that's kind of my, my favorite part about being in author revolution, where it's like allowing authors who want to kind of break the, break the conventional and go into the unconventional when it comes to their thinking, the way they use their author career, all the things.
Carissa Andrews:I love that. It just makes me happy as well. So it's so cool. Oh, thank you. Yeah, okay, so let's talk about your book, because From Grit to Greatness is the book right? And you discuss the five pillars of the militant grind. So, number one I want to know, like, what inspired you to write the book? And number two could you break down the pillars for us?
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, well, a friend actually inspired me to write a book and she was just like, you need something tangible that people could have. You know, do an ebook, et cetera. And I was just like, uh, you know, so I started writing it and the ebook version, and she was like, oh, this is cool. Then I was like, why would I write an ebook when I could actually like write a real book? And I had a friend that actually, uh, you know, published a book and so he, you know, gave me the information on how to do it, et cetera, and how I can make it happen. I actually interviewed him on my podcast.
Sherman Perryman:So interviewing people on my podcast has, like changed my life drastically because I have, like a connection that I'll be able to benefit from. So if I would have never had the podcast, it probably would have never happened, you know. So, you know, and some, and also some fellow authors and things like that gave me some advice how I should structure it, how I should write it. You know, start with the outline, you know, writing like it's no tomorrow. And then after a while, you go ahead and you read it and you'd be like, oh, this is crap, but then you just do it again.
Sherman Perryman:You know what I mean, so that's when the editing begins. Yes, oh, my god, it was like, you know, like say, after you write it, you putting your all into it, then you read it after a couple days, you'd be like what the hell was I thinking?
Sherman Perryman:you know, yeah that happens often, yeah, yeah that happens so many times and um, yeah, so I was like, okay, what really resonates with me when it comes to the five pillars, you know, because they were like, yeah, you should do like five pillars and I was like okay, and then I thought love, honor, strength, discipline and wisdom, right, and so I'm all of those are like the top things that resonate with me and I feel like if you have all of those, you should be pretty much solid throughout your life. You know, like nothing should be able to break you If you have love, honor, strength, discipline and wisdom, like you could go and that could almost be all that you need as a foundation, you know. And so, with love, I feel like love is first and love is very important and it's also overshined as far as, like, how Western society looks at love. It's like love is in everything, love is everywhere. Love is not just, hey, I want to date you and make love to you, and you know like no love could be your neighbor. You know how are you doing? Hey, are you OK?
Sherman Perryman:Today they're showing love and love is expressed in many different forms, many different ways, and it's not just, you know, sexual or intimacy, or physical intimacy, like you know what we try to portray and it's funny because I talked about that this past weekend. I was like man. I was in I'll talk to actually a gay associate of mine, right. So it was a gay man and we were just talking about you know the way the world is, and I was just like man. I went to dubai, which is a middle eastern muslim country, not gay at all whatsoever, right, and a man had grabbed my hand and held my hand and we were walking together, okay, and so you're like, why not, let's go?
Sherman Perryman:yeah, you know because I'm like I know he wasn't trying to, you know, based off where we were at but he held my hand, like in a firm way, like we're walking together as brothers, and I was like Western society has like perverted almost every kind of way to express love. You know, like, say, in other countries, some people are touchy, feely, like they like to touch you, they like to embrace you. Like you know, some places men kiss each other on the cheek, you know, and a stranger will see a kid and be like come here and give the kid a kiss and out here he'll be like hey, what are you doing? You know, right? So I remember I went to, I was working at a place, and a lady, she was Latino and she met me for the first time and she kissed me on the cheek and I was just like what? Like what's going on? But I recognize like people are OK with freely expressing love and in certain cultures and it's not that you know they're trying to hit on you or anything like that or invading your personal space.
Sherman Perryman:So I talk about like things like that in the book as well as self-love, which is very important, and I say that you know, the golden rule in life is to treat others how you treat yourself. But the first thing I would like to like people to do is love themselves, so you can treat others with love. You know they. Usually people treat other people in a way that they see like it's like a reflection of themselves and other people. So if somebody is usually happy and they love themselves, they're full of joy. They're going to treat you the same way, you know, and so, and then with that, I've learned not to take things personal. When people treat you with some kind of way is more so something inside of them, you know, and self-love is what drives people to be successful, to work hard. You know Like there's nothing that'll get a woman or, you know, let's say, a mother, a mother up at night to take care of something that's screaming. You know, every two to three hours you know what I mean and I'll tell people like you can't even prepare for having kids. It's like as soon as they're there, you have to. Just, you know like nothing's going to prepare you to wake up to a child screaming and you change them and you know, know, feed them, and then you go back to sleep for two hours and get up like, yeah, you know. So it's like all of that is love.
Sherman Perryman:And then with honor, it's more so, uh, like respectable. You know, I grew up in the streets of la and it was gang infested in gangland and all of these you know, know crime, violence and all of this stuff. And I learned that if you move with honor, you know amongst the people that are a part of that life, you'll get ahead. You know, and if you're not the aggressor and if you don't, you know, push people to that point. If you're respectable, you know people out here it's like it's still you know politics when it comes to that type of lifestyle, but if you're an honorable person, you could make it a long way.
Sherman Perryman:You know, in everything that you do and including your life, and then honor, discipline is very important when it comes to any type of success that you want. And you know, I would say, like, you know, it's easy for me to put motivation in there, but I think the motivation is BS. You know, I feel like discipline is what's going to get you far. And I tell people, you know I'm a physical fitness type of guy and they're like, well, I'm not motivated to go to the gym.
Sherman Perryman:I tell I push myself to go to the gym Like I don't really think I want to go inside of a building full of people sweating and, you know, working out for an hour and a half. You know, like no, you're never going to be motivated to do that. You could, you could, I'd rather do something else, but I have the discipline in me to go there and perform. You know, and I'll talk about how, um, you know Kobe Bryant and how he was very disciplined, and then at the end I talk about how your discipline could also be your detriment, in a kind of way, if you're not careful. So, with everything, I kind of like, you know, I have like the, the good side to it and then at the end, the bad. You know, not the bad side, but like a, you know optionary tale.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, you know something of that sort um, and then love honor, discipline. Golly, love honor discipline. Strength, I'm sorry. So strength, right I?
Carissa Andrews:totally get it yeah.
Sherman Perryman:So I'm about, you know, growing up. I talk about how I just love um wrestling and you know ar and Arnold Schwarzenegger and all of these different strong guys and I wanted to be strong. So I started working out at a very young age. In high school I was always pretty fit. No one ever could remember a time where I was not a fit person ever in my life. I can't even joke about that.
Sherman Perryman:And with that I've also mentioned how mental strength is also very important for you to be able to, like you know, go through your life. And that's the most important, because somebody that's mentally strong could overpower somebody that's physically strong, you know, with no problem at all. Both are important, you know not, you know not. You know. I mean I'm not saying you have to be the strongest guy in the room, but you know you ought to have a little something. You know not, you know not, you know. I mean I'm not saying you have to be the strongest guy in the room, but you know you gotta have a a little something, you know, like a strong mind, strong body, and that's something that I also, uh, teach my kids, I'm like in order for your body to be strong, you also have to have a strong mind, and vice versa. You know what I mean.
Sherman Perryman:And um, and then wisdom. Yeah, wisdom is pretty deep, because I go through scenarios in my life where, if I didn't listen to wisdom, I probably could have been dead or been in a bad situation. You know, because you have to listen to your you know the, the wise person in in your mind that tells you, oh no, you need to. You know you need to do this, you need to do that, or you can't do this or you can't do that. You know, and I often uh and also give. I'm not trying to give away like too much in the book because it's it's pretty short. So I'm trying to like, yeah, because I'm like, if I talk about it, why would people read it like that?
Carissa Andrews:Oh heck yeah, they'll still read it, because they'll still learn a whole lot.
Sherman Perryman:Right, right, right right. And so with wisdom, I just go through like you know how it's best for you to use wisdom throughout your life, and wisdom comes with time experiences. You know, like you know, and basically time like and yeah, time and experiences, that's how wisdom comes to you.
Carissa Andrews:And also listening to your intuition and your higher self I love that, yeah, yeah, I think that's so, that's so key having that like that holistic view of the world, of yourself, of like what you get to have and how you get to move through this space, because I think so many of us compartmentalize aspects of our lives, whether it be just like meditation, just physicality, that we don't really think about the integration of it all. And I think that is so important when it comes to success and and becoming ultimately what we're going to become or what we need to become right 1,000%, and I tell people, self-care is a full-time job Like oh my.
Sherman Perryman:God, it's a lot of work, you know. It's like you can't. You almost have to cut off, you know any. You know like a lot of stuff in order to have self-care, cause it's like man, you know, especially if you're a man or you know somebody that's in a position to lead, it's like you have to learn things because you know things are happening at a rapid pace. You have to be strong. You have to, you know, be healthy. You have to cook your food, you know you got to. You know learn about finance. It's like it's just too much that you have to embrace in order to be successful for you to like entertain any type of foolishness at all. You know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I completely understand that. We're trying to teach that to the teenagers right now. It doesn't always hit right. They're like why oh?
Sherman Perryman:yeah, yeah, I'll tell my daughter that too. I'm like you could be researching something that could make you a millionaire, like, but you're spending all this time playing Fortnite and Roblox.
Carissa Andrews:Yes.
Sherman Perryman:You could start up, you could start an online business and be rich at your age.
Carissa Andrews:You could create a store inside like Roblox or Fortnite. You could do something.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, something. So yeah, I'm with it. But it's like you know, when there's no necessity, then it's like you know what I mean, like they can't figure out, but I think I'll have to create a necessity in order to create the willpower you know, like oh you want to go here. Oh, that sounds good. Start an online business.
Carissa Andrews:I love that yeah.
Sherman Perryman:Right.
Carissa Andrews:Three different ways you could make money this weekend Go.
Sherman Perryman:No, that's exactly that's now. That's what. That's a takeaway from this, from this, from this show. For sure, because my dad did that to me, you know it was like, oh, if you want to figure it out, you know, but that creates creativity, willpower and you know, you know, discipline is like man.
Sherman Perryman:I was a young kid selling candy at school, making you know quite a bit of money, you know like. You know discipline, it's like man. I was a young kid selling candy at school, making you know quite a bit of money. You know buying my own school clothes. But it's not that he, he, probably, you know, I mean more than likely they couldn't afford to buy me the clothes that I wanted, you know. But I had to make a way if I wanted it. But these kids nowadays it's just like I don't even think they care about dressing nice anymore, you know.
Carissa Andrews:I don't know. I think there's definitely a few of them. Like you've got the. We have six kids total. Now there's only three in the house, but like we've had kids that don't care at all. Right, it's crazy. Well, whoa whoa whoa.
Sherman Perryman:I did not. I didn't even think you were a mother. You had six kids.
Carissa Andrews:We have six kids. Yeah, so my husband has four, I have two and then we have one together. So, technically, one of his four is mine as well. So there's six kids total. My oldest is 18 and he's he's one of the. I don't care about clothes at all, like nothing, but if you give him a goal, like he wanted to get his computer or his car, then he's off and running. He's doing it. My daughter, on the other hand, she likes to dress nice, but she wants it all taken care of for her, and it's like we're trying to teach her. You know, like these things you have to pay for and it doesn't always go over. Well, she's 15. So it's always like we're the we're the evil ones, cause we're trying to make her come up with ways to do these things. It's always, it's always interesting, yeah oh, that's amazing.
Sherman Perryman:That's good to hear. Oh, my god, I thought I was, because it's you know, it's rare to find, uh, other parents. You know what I'm saying, and you look young too, so I wouldn't even think that so do you? No, thank you, thank you. My kids for sure aren't nowhere near 18, but hey, I can't believe that's even.
Carissa Andrews:And I was old, I was 26 when I had them, so it's Right. I can't believe that's even. And I was old, I was 26 when I had them, so it's crazy. I can't believe it's already been that long, wow, so it's wild yeah.
Sherman Perryman:It goes really fast. My oldest is turning 11 in a couple months, but you know, go fast. Yeah, and they all have, and I have four kids and they all have totally different personalities, which is kind of crazy, you know.
Sherman Perryman:But yeah, and then also writing the book was like something good because I'm like you know, I've been witnessing a lot of deaths, um, within my community, you know, even you know, at my older, at my old age well, not old age, but middle age and um, I think you might just call me old because of that.
Sherman Perryman:Come on now right and I'm like I want to leave something behind for my kids, you know, and for something for them to be like okay, you know, your grandfather or your dad or your uncle or something, just wrote a book. You know what I mean, and I and I also want to do more because it's like I'm going to get the thoughts that I have like behind. You know what I mean yeah, yeah, that's so good.
Carissa Andrews:Okay, so when you were writing your book I mean, obviously all of the authors who are listening they know how difficult writing books are and like getting everything done was there any like specific challenge that you faced while you were writing it like, was it difficult, did it come easy, or did you apply some of the militant grind pillars to overcome the challenges?
Sherman Perryman:Um, the only hard part was me, um, like, letting it be, probably, you know, because I'll always, because you know I was like man, once you put it out there, there's no going back. You know, like, you don't want to make yourself look that, look like this or look like that. You know, like man, once you put it out there, there's no going back. You know, like, you don't want to make yourself look that, look like this or look like that. You know, like, if you come out with it has to be on point. So I will, like, I will read every single line, you know like, in detail, because I'm the, you know, I'm the type of person where it's like, whatever I read, I wanted to be impactful from the jump. You know I don't want to read any fluff, and that's what irritates me to my core. When it comes to certain books, it's like, come on, man, like you're just putting this in here to make the book long, like this means absolutely nothing.
Carissa Andrews:You know what I'm saying? You like short emails to the point, don't you? Yeah, like that's what.
Sherman Perryman:I'm about Like.
Sherman Perryman:I'm not like I'm not trying to read like you know, like, say, I'm reading a book and I'm like, oh my God, I cannot read anything ever from this author, because it's like you're saying remedial stuff that you know that doesn't need to be in there just to make your book long, just to say you wrote a book. So with my book, I was like every single line in there has to mean something and be impactful to the reader, you know. And with that strategy which is like, okay, I gotta write this book for me as well as for the audience. So you know, I wrote it for me. But then I had somebody read it and they were like, you know, a lot of people that's going to read this book isn't going to be college educated and super smart, so you might have to dumb it down a little bit. And I was like, oh right, oh right, you know, like, because I have, you know, I have two bookshelves in my house. I have books all on my desk everywhere, you know, and I have audio books. So I'm like an avid reader.
Sherman Perryman:But I had to step back and think about the audience. So I was like, okay, I'm gonna rewrite it again, I'm gonna input this scenario'm gonna do this. Okay, this needs to get out there. Okay, I could put this in there, you know. And I felt like I was just too critical to a point where I was just like you know, and the publisher was just like waiting on me, like hey, man, come on, you know what's going on. Then I was like you know what, man, I'm gonna just send this to him, like I'm done, you know you could have had two different variations.
Carissa Andrews:You could have had like the step two, if you're like get it, if you understand, and then the, the like entry level version, where you're like really softening the like oh, high level overview of everything. You know what I mean. You could have had two. Yeah, what are you doing, man?
Sherman Perryman:yeah, yeah volume one and volume. Yeah, I could have done something like that. That is is true, though. That is true. I'm probably going to, you know, take notice of that. Yeah, because I'm also writing like two more books too. I just have to, like you know, actually set the time and write because I'm, like you know, with the way publishing is now is effortless, so you should be able to write at least every Sunday just to get some thoughts out there. And I have a friend that's. He actually wrote a book and he's injured, he can't work out or do anything Right, and I was just like, oh well, I guess you could just write another book now, you know.
Sherman Perryman:So it was like you know, it's like you just have to take the time to actually do it and you know not be too hard on yourself.
Carissa Andrews:Find that discipline right. Yeah, yeah, there you go.
Sherman Perryman:Huh, find that discipline right. Yeah, yeah, there you go, yeah yeah, like I had to use all of the pillars for the book, like for sure, you know, and I'm actually just so surprised at the, the reactions I get from it. You know, I'm just like, wow, people really love it and I'll read like a review. And I'm like because, you know, sometimes people leave a review because they know you and they favor you. But there's this one review that I read and I'm like who the hell is this person? You know? Cause I'm just like promoting it within my circle, you know. But this review was kind of like somebody I have no clue who it is and I posted it up thinking that somebody would say something. But I was just like, wow, man, I'm just so glad that you know the energy that I put into this to resonate with other individuals in this kind of way. You know, people saying it changed my life, it helped me through a dark time, you know.
Sherman Perryman:I'm seeing life differently and I'm just like, wow, man, like look at the power of your thoughts and what it could actually do for people. You know, and that's the most rewarding thing ever is to hear. And actually it's crazy because I have a podcast where my friend was hosting my podcast, interviewing me in person, and you know, he was an elderly guy he's 50, you know, from Oregon, and he was just like man. I was going through a dark time and I was reading your book and you know man I'm, he was just like man. I was going through a dark time and I was reading your book and you know, man, I'm trying not to cry but it really hit me, you know, it really helped me out in my dark time and I'm looking like what are you serious, you know, but it happens that way, you know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, the right things come into your life at the right times, like when, when you're ready, the teacher comes. You happen to be the teacher.
Sherman Perryman:Right, right, oh, good, yeah, and we all could be teachers with what we're gifted at and with what we know. You know, and that's one thing that a lot of people don't understand is like you don't have to be you know a millionaire or have a you know a Lamborghini in a front yard in order to teach somebody something Like we all mastered some things, but some people, they just don't know how to exploit it. You know, for monetary gains, and some people don't want to exploit things for monetary gain. You know, I know some people that are phenomenal singers and artists and they're just like you know what man. I just want to play music and live my life and I don't want to be traveling around the world and have to go through all that. I'd just rather pay at local shows and, you know, do my thing and that's okay, you know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, absolutely. Everyone has their own version of what the perfect life gets to look like.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. And I've come to respect that because, as an entrepreneur, you know, it's like you think about ways where you could exploit, you know, make money and take advantage. And now I'm just like you know what People could be OK with, just like you know, living a simple life, just doing what they love, and they don't have to be rich for somebody to say that they know what they're doing, you know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah.
Sherman Perryman:And that's where I think, that's where, like you know, a lot of us get, especially in American society. We think that if you're not rich, you must not be doing something right.
Carissa Andrews:Right? Yeah, I completely agree with you, and I think a lot of us also think, especially from the author's spectrum. We all think that, like you can't even earn a living anyway from your writing, so why bother? Can't even earn a living anyway from your writing, so why bother? You know what I mean. So there's always like such a weird I don't know energy or juxtaposition between like we want it to be successful but we don't think we can get it successful. You know, like it's like we're constantly in this tug of war and because of that capitalistic society mentality, we're constantly pushing ourselves to to get it to do something that maybe we don't actually even at our core want.
Sherman Perryman:Right, you know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, yeah.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, and it's our limiting beliefs, you know, it's our limiting beliefs that tell us that. Because, you know, I remember putting out a post years ago saying I want to be an author, and somebody was like, just start writing, just do it, you know. And people used to always tell me you should write a book, because and even my dad used to like make fun of me about how I would write things on Facebook and he'll be like, how does your mind even come up with all that? Because I'm just like you know, and I'm writing a paragraph, just you know, off the top of my head, and people were just like, wow, you know.
Carissa Andrews:And I have gone through and like, pulled all those together and created a book based off of that.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, I actually thought about that today because I went through, you know, facebook to have on this day, you know, and you can see the things that you saw. I'm like, wow, I was a pretty deep thinker 10, 12 years ago, you know, and maybe I could pull some of those ideas and come up with, you know, some type of book, and you know one. I have another book coming out called no More Pain, and it's just basically about how, you know, a lot of people that I grew up with in the inner city was going through a lot of pain from the crack epidemic. You know that happened in Los Angeles. So it's a lot of broken homes, a lot of families, you know, broken, and you know it was just crazy and I've realized like how many people that I grew up with had to harness this pain as a child. And you know now, my, you know we're grown men now. So a lot of my closest friends started telling me about their life and I was just like, wow, man, like I would have had no idea you were going through stuff like that. You know it was.
Sherman Perryman:It's pretty intense and it's like you know, and they're they have children now like their parents, and I feel like when people become a parent, they start to look at life differently, because it's like, wow, I was a child and I have to raise my child in the way that I was raised, but I don't want to do that.
Sherman Perryman:So I'm looking at life from like a different point of view so I can change my mind and raise my child in a whole different way.
Sherman Perryman:And I've witnessed like countless including my siblings countless amount of parents do that. You know they reflect on their childhood more and their pain and their trauma, so they could be like I can't imagine how a man could just not take care of his child. Or I can't imagine how somebody could say this to their child I would never do that to my child, but that was done to me and it's like a conflict, you know, and I've been the witness of that so many different times, and I'm like I want to write about this to help out, you know, people in general that has been through like a lot of traumas and a lot of pain, and it's an overwhelming majority of people in the United States. You know it's kind of yeah, because my podcast is about mental health and I'm like, ooh, we trauma doesn't have a color, it doesn't have a social class, it doesn't have a type man. You have no idea what somebody went through, you know? Yeah, yeah.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, absolutely like when we look at like generational, like trauma, and we see how it evolves and how it evolves that specific generation, even though it sucks at the time, even though it sucks when you're in it and you're a kid and it shouldn't happen, it's like it builds a certain part of your character that allows you to look at your perspective so differently, like, and to be able to take yourself back and go. You know, do I want to continue this? Not really. Do I want to create a different lifestyle than I can. But how do I do it? Well, I have to think different thoughts or I have to act and behave differently than my parents did. So what would I have wanted you know back then versus what I actually had? And then how do I behave in that manner? And so it's like, I think, a lot of us because of that.
Sherman Perryman:We are a bit more reflective over how we want to show up in the world you know, yeah, yeah, definitely yeah, and you know that's that's something I definitely want to do, just to get back and just to help people. Cause man I, you know I've heard some traumatic stories. You know where people have good hearts but then it's like, you know, they can't help what they've been through, they can't help that they were treated this way. You know Right.
Carissa Andrews:Right.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, and it's pretty, you know it's intense, but I'm just like, since I'm the type of person. It's weird, though, because it's like people come up to me and they tell like even strangers, and they start talking about personal things in their life, like I've always been like that and I'm just like why are you even, you know?
Carissa Andrews:but then somebody was like there's something about you that makes them feel free enough to just start telling you these things, you know it's a higher vibration, what they say, that when you have a higher vibration where it's closer to that element of love, people can feel that and so they feel secure and safe in that space, being able to explain it and hand it over and share it. So, yeah, I can see that.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, yeah, you know, man, you know it's people. I'm like oh, she's like, you know, like I know how to take it now, because I'm like man, I've heard it all, you know.
Carissa Andrews:Right.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, like it started when I was a teenager. You know like girls I would be dating would tell me that they were sexually molested and you know all of these different things and I'm just like, oh my God. But then I had to learn how to embrace. You know what people tell me like I'm not surprised anymore, you know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah. Yeah, it's almost like you. Just you're there as that um soft spot to land, but then you can change it, you can transmute it and kind of let it go. Let help them, let it go.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, yeah, and that's what I had to learn to do, cause it's not that you know it's too heavy for me, it's more so, like I'm gonna listen and I'm gonna help you understand it from a different perspective. You know, like one of my friends just got caught up with a case where a woman, you know, said that he, he raped her, you know, because she was upset at him because he had a girlfriend or some other, some stuff like that. And then, just like recently, he told me that, you know, they dropped the charges. You know what I'm saying. But when he talked to me, I'll talk to him from a place where, like man, you gotta be strong.
Sherman Perryman:You don't know where. You know what's going to happen. She doesn't have anything on you anyway, you know. Like you know that you did not do this. So you have to. You know your thoughts have to be strong, you know I'm saying, and I felt like, since I told him that, and I also feel like thoughts are powerful too, because it could go inside of the universe and then, like, bad things could happen based off of how you respond to a situation, you know. So if he was panicking, if he was, you know, oh, man f that I do what she trying to do. You know what I mean, and you?
Sherman Perryman:know, start to be filled with hate, rage and all of these different things. You know, who knows what would have happened, you know. But if you take it where it's like, look man, it's happening, I'm embracing. I know I'm not guilty, I know I, I didn't do this stuff. The universe was like you know what, man, I'm gonna just pull them out of this boom, you know what I'm saying, and he was like I don't even know why I'm talking to you about this, but I told my girl, like we always have these conversations, etc.
Sherman Perryman:And I was just like you know, maybe maybe it was just meant to be you know what I'm saying Cause, like who would want to tell anybody that they, you know, got picked up on a rape? But like nobody wants to tell any human being that you know, that's one of the worst things you could ever go to jail for, you know? But yeah, you know, that's that's just an example, but yeah, that's that's how it happens. But I'm just so glad that, like the charges were dropped and it didn't go you know, it didn't, they didn't go through with it, et cetera. But I felt like, because he was internally such a good person and the way he came about it and the way he thought about it, you know, and the way he harnessed it, it kind of was like, okay, no, I'm not gonna let this go. I mean, let this happen, you know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, I so agree.
Carissa Andrews:Because when your thoughts are powerful and like from a manifestational standpoint Abraham Hicks talks about, like our desire is being a stick, and so on one side of the stick it's you know what we want the desire we want, the desired outcome the other end of the stick is the absence of it. And when we're focusing on, like, all the things that could go wrong, what you're doing is kind of activating that in the universe, that energy, that thing, saying here, bring this thing to me that I don't want, because you're so focused on it, where, if you switch your mindset and you're thinking more about, like, how you want this outcome to actually be, trusting and knowing in yourself that you didn't do this thing or that you can do this thing or whatever, then all of a sudden you're activating not only law of attraction, whatever. Then all of a sudden you're activating not only law of attraction but law of assumption, letting the universe know like I'm moving in this direction. This is how it's going to work, and so I really do think that the universe conspires to help us create that version Like it's. It's so open, it's willing to help us create things that we don't want. If that's you know where our mindset's going to go, but if we think about the things we do want, the outcomes we really need.
Sherman Perryman:It gives us that too. Yeah, yeah, definitely, definitely, and I also I'm a big fan of abraham hicks. But it's just like man, every single thought that comes out of your mind is like critical, since you're like your well-being. But I do know I do have to embrace duality sometimes, but then it's just like you know, the higher self has to win, because I'm not gonna lie like I switch from my lower self to my higher self all the time, you know, I know that that's there, you know. But I feel like your lower self is like there to protect you from certain things, you know. So you have to be a little inquisitive about certain stuff and not be too vulnerable, not be too you know.
Sherman Perryman:What do you call it? What is that? Trying to think about that word? Just don't be gullible, you know. Basically, you know what I mean. And it's easy to be gullible when you're going through life with love and understanding and compassion and you could be taken advantage of and all of these different things. So it's like you know, you have to have something in place, like a structure, which I prefer the five pillars of the military grind to keep you grounded, you know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think that makes total sense too. I mean, we're always we're human, right. We're always going to have contrast coming into our lives and we're always going to have to sift through it and try to figure out. What does it get to mean for us? But at the same time, I think you're right the pillars that you've built. It puts your mindset back into place. If you then take yourself out of whatever the chaos is in that moment and go, okay, well, using the pillars, how can I create this in my mind in a better, stronger way? Now, all of a sudden, you have a place to springboard from. That isn't going to spiral downhill and it's not necessarily going to put you in a place of being gullible either. It puts you in a very grounded mindset.
Sherman Perryman:Right, yeah, definitely, and you know I'm a tourist, so being grounded is like all that I'm about. You know what I mean. So, yeah, that's that's my sign. But it's like, you know, we often need something to reflect to that. Could, you know, give us a foundation? And that's what I also talk about, that in the intro. It's like we need a foundation that we could go back to, no matter what it is.
Sherman Perryman:If it's religion, if it's spirituality, you know something, I'll be like okay, what? What are my basics? You know, and so that's what I provide as a starting point inside of the book. It's like, okay, here's a few basics you could start with, you know, remix it as you want, do what you want with them, apply them as you want.
Sherman Perryman:But then, on top of that, I give real life examples that people could relate to, and also personal examples from my life. You know that I put out there as well to make it more human. You know like I'm not just writing about other people and people that I've observed, it's more so like no, I'm going to tell you about some times where I almost had a conflict, where I, you know, messed up, or when I did this or when I did that, you know, and I feel like when you come about it like that as an author, I feel like the reader has a different type of respect for you, because it's like wow, like I'm getting to know you. You're not just writing about somebody else or an experience that you heard of you know.
Sherman Perryman:So my style of writing is like I want to give you my perspective, you know my what I feel, what I think, and I don't want to write it as like a research paper. You know Well and this, you know, this and this I mean I cite the Bible and things like that just to you know have some type of common ground. But you know, I, I, I love to write. It's like OK, I'm talking to you as a friend, you know I'm giving you my opinion. You may not agree, but this is just what I think you know.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I know a lot of authors deal with a lot of self-doubt. Does the militant grind address like self-doubt and like do you have any personal experiences where, like when you were writing or in anything that you've been doing, that you're trying to utilize the pillars to get over any kind of self-doubt?
Sherman Perryman:That will have to be strength and discipline, because discipline will make you do it no matter what and just follow through with it, even if you do doubt yourself. You know like, yeah, I mean you could, I feel like you do. Everyone doubts themselves period. You know what I mean I could, I feel like you do. Everyone doubts themselves period. You know. Well, I mean I really I don't.
Sherman Perryman:But if you do, you know you can use discipline to keep you going. You know like strength, mental strength to keep you going, self-love to keep you going. You know honor to keep you going. It's like a lot of, I feel, like every single pillar you could use to keep you going. You know, cause it's like you know what I know. I'm not feeling this right now, but I told I made a commitment to myself that at 12 o'clock I'm a sit down and I'm a write this book and I'm just go through my thoughts. You know it's not really how you feel before, because when you actually like sit down and you start and then you do something, you will be, you will get in the flow.
Sherman Perryman:You know, no matter what like say you know, going to the gym sometimes I don't feel like it, but when I start, when I start and I'm going, I'm like, okay, I'm in here now. You know what I mean. And sometimes we have to get over the hump period, you know, and so that comes with mental strength. It's like, no matter what, you know, you're not gonna control my feelings, don't control me, I control me. So I'm gonna put myself through this, I'm gonna give it all that I got and I'm just keep going. You know, if you do have self-doubt you know, because sometimes it's not self-doubt, it's more so like how you feel inside that's stopping you, you know, and you know it can be self-doubt, of course, but it's like what is it that, what's going on inside of you that's making you want to doubt yourself, making you want to stop. Maybe you don't love yourself enough, you know, to give yourself the courage and influence. So maybe you need to read the first pillar about self-love to get that confidence, because if you love yourself, you could, you have the confidence and the wherewithal to think that you could do anything. You know, yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like that's really cause.
Sherman Perryman:It's like, say, some of the men you know that were boxers. I give an example of Muhammad Ali. He said I'm the greatest father in the world, you know, before he even won the title. You know, and people hate cocky people, people that so, or some people that love themselves, you know, like the greatest people. They knew that they were great. They love themselves so much that they embrace greatness, but then when they, you know, talk about it, I'm like hell, shit, I mean they have proof. You know what I mean so, but then when they proclaim it, it's like oh, they're this, oh, they're that. And I used to think about it like man, I love cocky people, I love that, you know. I love people that are sure about themselves. Those are the people who I want to follow Like.
Carissa Andrews:I think it's because a lot of people are scared of that power in themselves. Like they know they have it. They just haven't embraced it, and so, because they haven't embraced it, it's easier to point the finger at those who have.
Sherman Perryman:Right, come on Easy. Because it's like why don't you just find something that you're great at and you proclaim it? You could say man, don't nobody bake cookies better than me.
Carissa Andrews:Right.
Sherman Perryman:Love that your cookies ain't messing with mine here. Try it and I'm like damn, these cookies are delicious, oh my god right, yeah there's like there's all kind of things where people could actually like say that and it makes sense. You know, like man, I'm the greatest at this. I feel like I'm the greatest at that and you made there may be somebody better than you. Okay, cool, but at the end of the day, if you're believing that and you're putting your energy into that, then something has to come out of it right and.
Sherman Perryman:I'm telling you like, as a kid, I loved people that were sure of themselves, that were cocky, so-called, you know, was like. I just loved it, like Michael Jordan and Muhammad Ali and, um, who else? Uh, mike Tyson was one of my favorites, you know. He just knew that he was going to go in there and knock somebody out. You know what I mean. But I just love seeing champions and loved how champions think and I feel like that is what resonated, you know, in me so much. You know what I'm saying, cause it's like they love themselves so much that they proclaim their destiny, you know, and I feel like that's just powerful, you know it is yeah for sure.
Carissa Andrews:It's that decision point where it's like no one's going to deter them from it, like this is how it is, yeah.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, yeah, and Kobe Bryant was the same way. Like you know, he messed up his first game and after the game he went in the. He went to a local high school in LA Palisades and he just started shooting in the in the locker room, you know, for hours. He was just like no, I'm not going to let myself down like that. I love myself too much to let myself down like that.
Carissa Andrews:Right.
Sherman Perryman:Because it all starts with love.
Carissa Andrews:Right, and I think I think that ties back to, like, the idea of promotion and, you know, self-promotion or marketing or whatever, because so many authors have a you know such a hard time. They love the writing part of it, they love the publishing part of it, but when it comes to the self-promotion part of it, now they're getting getting hung up, and so it's like I think that pillar is probably the same. Then, right, self-love, would you agree that?
Carissa Andrews:you have to love your story, love your words, love what you do and love your readers, I suppose, to be able to then be authentic, do?
Sherman Perryman:you have any other?
Carissa Andrews:advice on like strategies about marketing when it comes to the pillars.
Sherman Perryman:Marketing is kind of well, cause it's like you have. I mean you, you really have to be confident enough to, um, because that's kind of fun, because I say with me, right, I'm just so confident in the book that you know it's in the store. Now, you know, people actually purchased it inside of a store and they'll send pictures of me like, hey, man, because it's in the store. That is in the neighborhood that I grew up in, and people will be like man, I've seen your book in here. Man, wow, you know, I've seen this, I've seen that and I'm just like.
Sherman Perryman:You know, I had enough confidence to contact them and say, hey, I want to put my book in your store. You know what I mean. Like, or just put it out there like, hey, you know, somebody's like hey, man, where can I buy your book? You know, where can I buy your book? Because of the way I talk about it, the way other people talk about it. You know what I mean.
Sherman Perryman:But if you really put your all into it, you should be able to promote it effortlessly to other people, you know. Or even like, give it to somebody for free, just so they could read it and be like hey, just let me know what you think about it. You know what I'm saying, so I've had enough feedback and enough confidence in myself to say you know what I'm going to promote this on everything that I do. I'm going to talk about it because I know that people are receiving it in a great way. And how dare I hold that back when I know that there were people that you know were motivated, inspired, that you know it changed their life and they changed their thought patterns. Like I would be a selfish person to not even talk about, you know, this book to other people or put it out there to the world.
Carissa Andrews:That is so good. I so agree with you, and it's to me it does, though it ties back to that love, because you love that book and you know that the words are going to resonate so well with the people who are going to. You know, pick up the book to be able to understand the pillars, to be able to get into that mindset shift. And you're in fiction or whether you're in nonfiction, there's always something, some element that needs to get to the readers that's going to help them, even if it's just entertaining them for a little bit, or even if it's just showing them a story that is going to put what they're going through in a better light or different light. I think every time we're writing something, it just has such an impact on readers that authors forget that power. Sometimes it's so weird.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, take you out of it. You know it's not about you. It's about you impacting others, depending on, like, you know what, what you're, you know what you write about, cause it could be a cookbook and you can be like, oh, you should follow these recipes. I'm a great cook, I love cooking. I feel like this will be great for you and, yeah, you should check it out. Somebody will be like, oh, okay, yeah, I see you're passionate about it. You actually love it. I could see you love to cook, so why wouldn't I pick that book up?
Sherman Perryman:But I'm not going to pick up a book of somebody saying, hey, I wrote a cookbook, you should buy it and I'm doing it for money and I'm not, like, passionate about it.
Sherman Perryman:Like, say, I have, uh, interviews with a lot of authors, you know, and one author I was like, man, I have to get this guy's book because I know that, based off of me talking to him, I know that he put some real information inside of this book, you know, and there were people where I was a guest of their podcast and they read it and they were like, oh, my God, I love it, you know, but I'm just like, wow, Think about, like, how much it takes for anybody to just go on a website, purchase something with your name on it. Take the time to read it. You know what I mean. Like, what is it about you that made them want to just make that move? You know what I mean. So it's like, yeah, you have to really, you know, be about it and embrace it and, just like you know, like, really put it on the line, because you know you put it on the line for it to come to fruition.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, yeah, yeah, I totally agree. Oh it's, it's so powerful when you can embrace that part of your journey as well, like to be able to get over, like you said, get over yourself into the point of like realizing that this, that this is bigger than who you are, it's meant to be impacting others, and to get it out there and just to trust that the right people are going to find it Right. Yeah.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, and I'll tell somebody. This past weekend I was like if you take yourself out of things, like it's really easy to be motivated and inspired to just do things, you know, because it's like say they're like, oh man, how do you stay motivated to be in the gym? I'm like, okay, so let me think about this. I have a two-year-old at. You know I'm about to be 38, so I want to be able to live long enough for that two-year-old to. You know, if that two-year-old decides to have a child at 38, I'm gonna be almost 80 years old. You know I'm saying, or like whatever. So how am I gonna be at 80? And then it's like I want to be able to see my grandchild. You know what I'm saying, or like whatever. So how am I going to be at 80? And then it's like I want to be able to see my grandchild.
Sherman Perryman:You know, walk and talking. You know like our grandparents were more than likely at our high school graduations. You know what I mean life, that you know your grandkids and you know your kids could be able to have access to you and you could actually do things and be agile. Like it's not about you working out because you want to look a certain way, or you eating right, so you want to look a certain way. You're doing this so the people that love you could have you around, could get the best out of you, so the world could get the best out of you. You know, and if you love them like you say, you do do right for yourself, cause no son wants to look at his dad with his stomach sticking out, you know, or like not looking strong.
Sherman Perryman:Like when I grew up, I looked at strong men, like you know, always strong. My grandfather looked strong until, you know, he died at 75. Like you would have thought he was always in the gym. And I'm like you know, like your sons will end up. You know, even your daughter. Daughters will end up looking up to people that aren't you.
Sherman Perryman:Because of how you look. It's like, okay, I'm looking at at, let's say, captain America, and you know he's a hero. And I'm looking at my dad and my dad is 250 pounds and Captain America's looking like this. Right, you know what I mean. So it's like you really have to think about that. And my friend that I work out with he's like man. Your kids got to look at you like a superhero, you know, keep going, keep. And that's how he motivates me to keep working out. And it's the truth. It's like my kids embrace me, like I'm their hero, like, daddy, pick me up, daddy, look I'm strong too. Daddy, look I'm working out as well, you know, and when I take myself out of it, it's just more easier to be consistent and more dedicated to my health.
Sherman Perryman:Consistent and more dedicated to my health. And that's actually the example that I had growing up. Like, if I showed you a picture of my parents, you'll be like what those are your parents? Like, yeah, because they work out, they exercise, they take care of themselves, you know. So this is how it happened. I'm not going to say that every one of my siblings follow the same thing, but it's like, you know, if you had the example growing up, it's on you to. You know, take that or not. You know what I mean.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, yeah Well, and it all feeds back around too, because when you're working out, you're increasing oxygen levels to the brain. Your brain is obviously important. You have bigger, bigger thoughts, you think of new things like it. It all feeds back, especially as authors Like I've talked about how you. You know drinking enough water and working out is so important because of the brain aspect of it. Like you're, you're clearer thinking, you are more tuned into the universe, you are like you're just more capable when you are taking care of your whole system. Right, you know?
Sherman Perryman:yeah, definitely definitely yeah, and like all of that plays apart. You know all of it does and it's like it's a part. You know all of it does and it's like it's not about you. You know what I mean. It's never about you, it's about everybody else.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah, body or like you know, sit down at a restaurant and somebody comes in. They don't say a word to me, but they just see me sitting there looking strong and fit, you know, with the, you know tight shirt, so you can just see my body and everything like that, and I'm looking healthy and I'm vibrant. That person never says a word to me, right? But at the end of the day, since they saw me, something sparks in their mind to be like you know what I need to get in the gym me. Something sparks in their mind to be like you know what I need to get in the gym, I need to start eating healthy.
Sherman Perryman:And their life basically changed just by looking at you. You know, and we could impact the world. You know where it's like it doesn't. You don't have to know that. Your impact in the world, like somebody doesn't always have to tell you man, you changed my life. You know it could be something where it's like that person doesn't know your name, they forgot what you look like, they just and they probably don't even remember that you inspired them. But I'm sure if they go back to be like, yeah, I just saw somebody you know at the gym and I was like man. Or at the store and I was like man, I need to. You know that person was looking good, I need to get all my stuff Right, right, yeah, and it's like we can impact the world in such minimal ways by just being the best versions of ourselves, I agree.
Carissa Andrews:So for my listeners who want to like start incorporating the militant grind pillars into their daily lives, where do they start? Like, how do they, how do they begin the implementation process of that? Is it reading the book first? Is it going to your website, like what? What is the best way to be able to learn?
Sherman Perryman:I would definitely say reading the book first and using the book as like a reference, you know, and basically like, after you read the book, it's more so like, okay, how am I going to incorporate this in my life for myself with what I want to do? You know, I'm not the type of person to say, hey, you should do this or you should do that. I feel like you should do what you were born to do, that you love to do. But just keep these basics in mind while you're doing what you love to do.
Carissa Andrews:Right.
Sherman Perryman:You know, and some people be like you know what, man, I'm feeling this kind of way. I want to go read the strength pillar. It'll only take me a couple of minutes and I'm just going to use that as a reference, like, okay, yeah, now I'm feeling it, you know, oh, I don't feel like working out today or I don't feel like, you know, uh, doing this. I'm going to read the discipline pillar, you know, and to see how I feel. So I often tell people you know, you could, you could read it, and then I'll just be like, okay, what did? How does it resonate with you?
Sherman Perryman:Because a lot of people will say you have to be like this, you have to be like that. I don't feel like there's a structured way to do certain things. Some things you have to innovate and you just have to do it on your own. And I'm not going to say, oh, if when you read this, you're going to make money or you're going to be a millionaire, it's like no, you're just going to feel good inside. And once you do that, you know, fix your spirit, your mind, your body. Then all of those other things are going to come.
Carissa Andrews:Right, oh, I so agree with that. Okay, so, looking forward. You mentioned that you've got a couple of books already in process, but do you foresee the militant grind philosophy evolving? Or, like, what are the upcoming projects that you're working on, so that my listeners know, like like, what to be looking forward to as you're digging through all of this?
Sherman Perryman:yeah, um, yeah, it is evolving. I'm gonna write, um, you know, I have a book called no more pain coming out and then also I'm working on something where it's going to be called the true alpha male and I'm gonna talk about, like how, like what it really means to be alpha male and get over some of the you know, the misconstrued, you know like things that people say. You know, like they think they're alpha or they think that this is an alpha, and I'm like, no, I'm going to really let it be known what a true alpha male is, you know. So people get really decided they want that heat or not you know.
Carissa Andrews:Now is this like when you're saying the heat. Are you talking about romance heat?
Sherman Perryman:because all romance authors are all about alpha males no, he was like you know, because, like I said, I had a. I actually have a co-host podcast called the alpha male dialogues and it basically says, like, when you're the alpha male dialogues, and it basically says, like, when you're an alpha male, you have to be accountable for everybody and everything and you have to take everything as if it's your own. You know, it's not that you lead like you know. Oh, I'm, you know, I'm gonna tell people what to do is. I know you're accountable for lives, you're accountable for people and if anything goes astray, you have to be the one to be on the front line.
Sherman Perryman:Right, you know that responsibility aspect yeah, Responsibility aspect, like if you're alpha male and I'm thirsty, you have to go get some water, or figure out how I could drink some water. You know you? That's what true leadership, true alpha male, is, and I don't feel like there's any levels to it, it's just what it is, you know, cause it's like you have to be the one to take charge for other people's lives, and I feel like people think that just because you're tough or you could beat somebody up or you could do these things, you're an alpha. It's like, no, that's not what alpha is at all.
Carissa Andrews:Yeah, yeah. If I'm hungry and you're an alpha, you have to figure out a way for me to eat. Sure, yeah, or at least lead me to a place where I know where to go eat and feed myself from now on. Yeah, here's the pantry. Enjoy Right.
Sherman Perryman:Right, and that's and that's really what it's about, you know. And so I'm like, okay, I'm gonna really put that out there to see. And then it's also like tune people up you, because, as I say, if you know, like I said when I mentioned that, people come up to me and they tell me their life stories and things like that, and that's because I have an alpha personality where it's like, you know, this guy is respectable, he's, you know, like vibrates with love, you know, and honor and things like that. So I could go ahead and tell him this and I'm sure he wouldn't use it against me, I'm sure he wouldn't put it out there, I'm sure he wouldn't tell people. You know what I mean. But that's what you do when you're. You know like, say, if you're in a tribe and somebody is an alpha, that you go to that person with your troubles, with their worries you know, hey, man, I really need this, or I really like, what can I do?
Carissa Andrews:You know what I mean? Yeah, so good. Yeah, I think that's going to resonate with a lot of people. I mean, the no more pain is too, but I think think both together, like when combined with the pillars even, it's like almost like this triad of things that are really going to help level up people in new ways, that's really cool. Do you know when, when these are going to be coming out?
Sherman Perryman:No no.
Sherman Perryman:I need to start the alpha male, like ASAP, though I'm a really like, cause I'm basically starting a um, an experience where me and other men are going to go in the wild and, you know, camp out and, you know, live in nature for a few days, and I want them to have that book, you know. So it's like I kind of like man, I want to have that book ready for when I actually do, uh, when I actually do have the retreat. So I'm gonna start, you know, I'm gonna really get on it, you know. But yeah, I'm not, I don't play it, Cause I guess once I do that, you know I'll put a lot of pressure on myself. I'll be like, like you said this day so it has to happen, you know, so I don't care
Sherman Perryman:what you got going on. You said this stick to it. And that's the type of person I am, and maybe I do need to do that to light a fire up under my behind. Because, trust me, like right, no, there's pressure. Like say, you know, I had one guy I was gonna do, uh, some work for him, right, and usually I don't like taking people's money unless it's complete. But he was just like no man, what's your, what's your uh information? He sent me the money and I was like, oh god, I gotta do this asap. Like I had to stop everyone. Like he sent me the money first. I gotta get this done because I'm not gonna have anybody bothering me saying, hey man, I sent you the money, bro, where's it at? You know?
Sherman Perryman:like yeah, you know what I mean. So the way to life fire, that's some, you know, that's a way to pressure me is to say hey, man, you know like, and you're not going to put me in a position where you're going to control me, you know, just because you pay me and things like that. So, yeah, I think I really do need to put a date on it Now that you it, because, trust me, it's been an idea for a while yeah, well, that's kind of what happens.
Carissa Andrews:It sits in bruise for a bit and then all of a sudden it's like nope, I've decided today is the day I'm setting a deadline, let's go, that's how it has to happen yeah that is how it has to happen, but I gotta I'm gonna give myself like a couple weeks, so but yeah that's great, absolutely right you.
Carissa Andrews:Even if you've got this podcast, you have, like, the perfect opportunity to like mine for gold through it, like if you've had conversations. Go through the transcripts that is true so many so many good things that could already be kind of written out for you if you get the transcripts so that's true, yeah starting point yeah, yeah, you're absolutely right.
Sherman Perryman:I going to make that happen, for sure.
Carissa Andrews:Cool, cool. Well, I look forward to it. If you do get it up, you'll have to let me know like send me a link, because I'll share it with my audience too.
Sherman Perryman:It'll be awesome, for sure, yeah, so where?
Carissa Andrews:where can my audience go, sherman, to find you, to find out more about everything that you do to get your book Like? Where do they go?
Sherman Perryman:Militantgrindcom has absolutely everything. Or you could just Google my name, sherman Perryman, and all kind of stuff will pop up, but militantgrindcom is like the source for everything that I do.
Carissa Andrews:Awesome. Well, I'm also on.
Sherman Perryman:LinkedIn. I'm on everything you know.
Carissa Andrews:Thank you. Thank you so much for sharing your insights, your wisdom and, obviously, talking about Militant grind and all that it encompasses.
Sherman Perryman:I appreciate you being on the show. Thank you so much. I appreciate you inviting me and this actually happening. I feel like this has been an amazing conversation. I've learned a lot, you know, so I want to thank you for sharing your insight as well, you know well, thank you.
Carissa Andrews:I mean I've definitely learned a lot. I'm motivated just to like learn more myself. I want to get the book. I want to be able to dig through it, maybe pass it over to my husband, it's all good.
Sherman Perryman:Yeah.
Carissa Andrews:Cool, cool. Well, thank you, you're very welcome. Wow, what an incredible conversation that was with Sherman, wasn't it? I have to say, getting getting to dive into the Militant Grind philosophy, learning about its origins and understanding the heart behind Sherman's mission was truly inspiring for me. In fact, I've even been on his podcast now a couple of times because speaking with him has just been so profoundly impactful. His dedication to fostering a resilient mind and approaching life's challenges with love and compassion is something we can all take to heart. I hope you found as much value in this discussion as I did.
Carissa Andrews:Now, speaking of love, if you've been following me on Instagram or TikTok, you may have noticed that things are starting to shift a little bit in the author revolution world. There's a fresh transformative energy in the air and I am fully embracing it. It's like this big alchemist vibe has swept over me, and I'm so excited about the changes that are on the horizon. I'm in the process of revamping the way I offer my courses, with a focus on making an even greater impact on your author journey and your life. I want to ensure that the resources I'm providing aren't just helpful, but they're truly transformational. And here's the thing, if you're not already following me on social media. Now is definitely the time to jump on board. You'll get the latest updates, insights and sneak peeks into all the exciting developments before anyone else, but you're also going to get some new interesting educational posts that I haven't really been digging into until this point. So, trust me, you're not going to want wanna miss what's coming next.
Carissa Andrews:Speaking of exciting developments, I am thrilled to announce that on August 31st at 1 pm Central Time, I'll be hosting a webinar called the Breakthrough Moment. Now, this session is designed especially for authors who have hit their I'm done moment and are ready to alchemize it into the ultimate breakthrough. See what I did there Alchemize right. It's going to be a powerful, game-changing experience and I can't wait to share it with you. If this sounds like exactly what you need, you can sign up at authorrevolutionorg forward slash. Breakthrough. Spots are limited, so make sure you reserve your spot. Lastly, if you want to revisit today's episode, get the transcript or explore the links to Sherman's site and his books, head over to AuthorRevolutionorg forward slash 249. Everything you need will be right there. Thank you so much for joining me and Sherman today. I'm so grateful to be on this journey with you and I can't wait to see where the future takes us. Until then, go forth and start your author revolution. Thank you.
